For many of us Christmas is a time of joy, a time for family, a time for giving and a time of unity. For others of us it is a time of stress, a time of emotional dysregulation and a time of disruption. As adopters we become parents of children who often come from an environment which contains no structure, no boundaries and no routine. We work incredibly hard throughout the year to create those within our families to help make our children feel safe and secure. This is always met with varying results, but we try. Then Christmas happens,