When you are in the adoption process, contact with birth family is presented as a vital component in providing your child with a sense of identity. The theory being that your children have a way of finding out information about where they came from. That’s the theory… Of course that only works if your letters don’t go unanswered, if the birth family respond to the contact in the way that they agreed to. Once in a while at least. There are many reasons why the reciprocal contact may not happen. The local authority may not have been updated about the