Then We Were Four

Schooling Selection

An important task lies ahead of us; choosing which Primary School to send our children to. Ordinarily parents are limited by their location for schools, for the most part having to send their children to a school which has a catchment area within which their home happens to be situated. It is, dare I say, a “Postcode Lottery”. The majority of primary schools in our area are beholden to the local authority entry requirement rules which are, I believe, centrally controlled by the government. When there are more people wanting a place at a school than are available (class sizes have

Contact Conundrum

When we adopted our children we agreed to a contact plan which involved writing a letter twice per year to their birth parents to give them an update on how they are and what they are doing.

Liebster Award

17th September 2016 Then We Were Four Miscellaneous One comment

So, apparently at least one person other than my family reads my blog! Laura at the blog Riddle From The Middle has nominated me for a Liebster award. This is essentially an award given by bloggers to other bloggers with a few rules attached to it. I think it is designed to increase traffic onto your blog by linking it to other blogs that you read and like. Laura is a fellow adoptive parent, thanks to her for the nomination.

The Stranger Hypocrisy

14th September 2016 Then We Were Four Adoption, Post Adoption 3 comments

We always do our best not to be hypocritical when enforcing rules with our children. Lead by example is the policy we try to follow, but this can be quite difficult in some circumstances.

Goodbye Dear Friend

7th September 2016 Then We Were Four Dogs, Family Leave a comment

I am not brilliant at expressing my emotions in person, I am much better at doing so in writing. This blog post has very little to do with adoption, and is admittedly a little self-indulgent. I write it for me, you may read it if you want.

Weighing on our Minds

29th July 2016 Then We Were Four Adoption, Post Adoption Leave a comment

When our children first came to us, we found certain elements of parenting incredibly stressful. This was actually compounded by the people who claimed to be there to help us.

Finding the Monster

13th July 2016 Then We Were Four Adoption, Family Life, Post Adoption 2 comments

Many children who come into care suffer with incredibly low self-esteem and this is usually something which they will have to battle throughout their lives.

Parenting Cycles

1st June 2016 Then We Were Four Adoption, Family, parenthood, Post Adoption Leave a comment

We all do it. We tell ourselves we will never be like our parents, we’ll do things differently, we’ll do things better.

The Parenting Anxiety

24th May 2016 Then We Were Four Adoption, Post Adoption One comment

I am a worrier. There are no two ways about it. I am the kind of person that attempts to think through every single scenario of a given situation and come up with a plan to cope with it. I lose sleep over it, I get migraines because of it, I even sometimes end up avoiding the given situation because of some bizarre scenario I have come up with that I can’t find a way of resolving. The more unknowns the worse I am.

What’s Your Longest Home?

11th May 2016 Then We Were Four Adoption, Family Life, Post Adoption Leave a comment

A few months back our home became our youngest’s longest home. I said then it would be quite a while before our oldest could celebrate the same occasion. That is still technically true, but it depends on how you define your ‘home’. Is it the people you live with? The place you live? Or a combination of the two?